Showing posts with label Woman 2 Woman. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Woman 2 Woman. Show all posts

Tuesday, October 25, 2011

The difference between working hard and workaholism

Too many confuse the two and neglect their families, the Lord's day rest, and the quality of life because they live for their employers and their jobs. So many families and churches are hurting because of the workaholism in the culture. 



We do tend to glamorize workaholism in our culture when in fact it is much like any other negative addiction.
Psychologists tell us that the incessant work-related activity is usually a mask for anxiety, low self-esteem, and relationship problems.  It's easy to justify "work" rather than have to deal with those issues.  Typically poor health shows up as well, but again, we never criticize someone for having migraines, backache, or a heart attack.  More likely they just get more of our sympathy for all the work they are doing.
We look down on drug, alcohol, pornography or gambling addictions - but workaholism is called the "respectable addiction."  Someone struggling with this is consumed with the idea that they are "the only one that can do the job right."
Hard workers have some balance in their lives.  They are making deposits of success in physical, family, spiritual, and social areas of their lives.  They can be writing a proposal and thinking about being on the beach.  Workaholics sit on the beach and think about working.
Here are a few steps to avoid workaholism:
  • Set limits on the hours you devote to your job. (40-50 hrs max)
  • Dedicate time to develop your personal relationships.
  • Confront your fears of anxiety, low self-esteem, and relationship problems.
  • Define your worth without referencing what you "do."   Who are you?
  • Engage in vigorous physical activity for 30 minutes at least 4 or 5 times a week.
When we are physically, mentally, spiritually, and emotionally well balanced, our work performance will improve.  Workaholism will decrease your value in any organization.  And you will be robbing success from other areas in your life.
If you you "don't have time" for success in important areas of your life - then you may be a workaholic.

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Friday, October 21, 2011

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Monday, August 1, 2011

How Do You Deal with Heartbreak? Part II










Have faith God has plans for you to prosper and not to harm you (Jer.29:11)

You may never know or understand why the break-up happened; however, God may be protecting you from this person, He may want you all to himself at this time or he may have someone better suited for you. Whatever the reason, God knows our beginning, the middle and the end and truly wants the best for us, as our Father. Have the faith to recognize it, believe it and live it.
Place your hope in God and his Spirit, not in someone else (Rom. 5:5)
It may be difficult to do at times, but placing your hope in a perfect God is a better decision than giving your life to a fallible human. God continually shows this to be true in ways we can’t even fathom and hope placed in him does not disappoint. I’m not sure we can say the same about others, or ourselves.
Show love for everyone (including your “ex”) (Matt. 5:43).
Love in today’s society seems to be so fleeting and have no basis at times. The love God teaches us is neither selfish nor affected by emotions or situation, but rather loves through all things, including trials, faults and disappointments.
The most difficult part, as you have mentioned, is to see your former interest around work or at church, especially if he or she is with someone else. However, when you reach that point in your healing and forgiveness process when you will want the other person to be happy even if it doesn’t include you, you will find a peace that really does transcend all (human) understanding.
This isn’t an easy process, it will take time and there is no perfect “formula,” but it all begins with releasing any negative feelings you have toward your former partner, forgiving them for whatever wrong they may have done, asking the Lord to heal you of your hurt and pain and holding onto hope, faith and love.
When the next opportunity comes around, and there will be more, you will be better equipped to handle whatever that situation holds.
The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit 


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Sunday, July 31, 2011

How Do You Deal with Heartbreak? Part I

Heartbreak is difficult and not something that is easily " gotten over", nor should it necessarily be. Many of us spend years searching for our lifelong spouse and once we (think we) locate "that" person, we open our heart and lives to them in an attempt to love and be loved. When our feelings are not reciprocated in the way we hope or want, we are brokenhearted and need to take a period to heal, in our our time and in our own way. 

What we all have discovered through " trail and error" (a.k.a dating) is that most relationships don't work out (surprise!), and it would be beneficial for us to learn from and learn how to manage break-ups since we may encounter them again. For many of us, it is a day to day journey of struggle, heartache, emotions and growth. Some journeys will be easier than others and some may last longer than others. However, your journey can and will lead you to peace if you refrain from holding onto bitterness, spite, envy, jealousy and anger against your former mate. You have to make sure that you do not become judgmental towards your former mate. 

 Judge not, and you shall not be judged. Condemn not, and you shall not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven. Luke 6:37


We may "think" we are hurting someone by having ill feelings toward them. In reality, we are only hurting ourselves by delaying our grieving, healing , forgiving and growing process. We shouldn't be acting or reacting like those of the world (and as we see on television reality shows), but rather living according to the instructions the Lord gives us in His Word. 



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Friday, July 29, 2011

Love

Our love depends on the receiver of the love. Let a thousand people pass before us and we will not feel the same about each one of them. Our love will be regulated by their appearance, by their personalities. Even when we find  a few people we like, our feelings will fluctuate. How they treat us will affect how we love them. The receiver regulates our love. Not so with God. We have not thermostatic impact on his love for us. His love is uncaused and spontaneous. He loves us because of his goodness, kindness and great faith. 


The father himself loves you, He loves you because you loved me and believed that I came from God. John 16:27

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Tuesday, July 26, 2011

Phenomenal Woman That's me... What about you?

"Men themselves have wondered
What they see in me.
They try so much
But they can't touch
My inner mystery.
When I try to show them,
They say they still can't see.
I say,
It's in the arch of my back,
The sun of my smile,
The ride of my breasts,
The grace of my style.
I'm a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,That's me."- Maya Angelou


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