There are four types of tongues: Controlled, Caring, Conniving and
Careless, after studying them I remember times in my life where I demonstrated
each one of them one more than the other; but I thank God for his love and
transforming power! Take a look at these and if you really examine your heart
your will see which tongue you are exercising the most…. The first two should be copied, while the last two should be avoided.
1.
The
Controlled Tongue: A woman with a controlled tongue thinks before she speaks.
She knows when silence is best and she gives wise advice.
The more
talk, the less truth; the wise measure their words. Proverbs 10:19 (MSG)
2.
The
Caring Tongue: A woman with a caring tongue speaks truthfully while seeking
to encourage.
Just as
lotions and fragrance give sensual delight, a sweet friendship refreshes
the soul. Proverbs 27:9 (MSG)
3.
The
Conniving Tongue: A woman with a conniving tongue is filled with wrong
motives, gossip, slander and a desire to twist the truth.
Troublemakers
start fights; gossips break up friendships Proverbs 16:28
4.
The
Careless Tongue: A woman with a careless tongue is filled with lies, curses,
quick-tempered words- which can lead to rebellion and destruction.
Fools
have short fuses and explode all too quickly; the prudent quietly shrug
off insults. Proverbs 12:16 (MSG)
You must pray daily for a controlled and caring tongue because our flesh
is not saved. You can only have these through faith and the power of the Holy
Spirit. Do not fool yourself because it’s not easy and many of us struggle with controlling our mouths. We speak before we think, not realizing the repercussions of what we
just said. We are careless with what we say, thinking we can apologize
for it later; but you have to realize that the scars still remain. A few words of anger can
destroy a relationship that took years to build.
What we say or do not say probably effects more people than any other
action we take. Proper speech is not only saying the right words at the right
time, but also controlling your desire to say what you shouldn’t. James says
that no human can control the tongue. Even if you may not achieve perfect
control of your tongue, you can still learn enough control to reduce the damage of what your words can do. Satan uses the tongue to divide people against one another.
Idle and hateful words are damaging because they spread quickly, and no one can
stop the results once they are spoken. So the next time you speak ask yourself,
Is what I want to say is true? Is it necessary? Is it Kind?
